I fully believe that honor is to be earned by another individual and that love just can’t be given out like candy. I wouldn’t give honor and respect to a person that treated me unfairly and didn’t give me and didn’t have a mutual appreciation for me. As some teachers say, “I don’t give out respect, you earn it.”

 Iff you treated everyone with love, respect, and honor, it could be compared to rewarding bad behavior; when your dog eats your homework, you don’t pet him and say, “Good dog!”  You reward the dog that is obedient follows your orders, and loves you unconditionally. When you honor someone, you need to trust them;  and when you trust someone, you trust them in a specific way. With that trust, that love that accompanies it is also specific. For instance, you may have different types of love and trust for someone as a friend, a relative, or a lover; and for true, complete love, you need to respect them.

If you do not have high regard for a person’s behavior, intelligence, or morals, it’s hard to find honor in their lifestyle. Its human nature to not regard a person who is conceited, condescending, arrogant, envious, or negative. When you feel another person belittles, deceives, or takes advantage of the love you bestow on them and reciprocated, you will eventually become disenchanted and fall out of love and despise one another. Respect should be mutual. You respect a coach or a teacher that directs that guides you sternly yet fairly; a coach that rants and yells aimlessly, without direction, or a teacher that is a pushover will earn little or no respect from their students. I believe to fully achieve someone’s love that you must have a positive impact on one another’s lives.